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About
I’m Valerie Frazier
A U.S. Army Veteran, Certified Grief Coach, Certified Life Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Small Group Facilitator, Author, and Founder of On the Other Side of Grief.
I have a degree. Yes. I’m certified yes, I received certification through an institute governed by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). But that’s not what makes me masterful. I’m qualified based on 12 years of coaching results, my personal life experiences and numerous successes at getting myself and others on the other side of grief and sever disappointment.
What I am not…is a mental health practitioner, in the sense that I’m not a therapist, nor mental health counselor. I am a coach, an “accountability partner.” Yes, I’m that woman that holds your feet to the fire, helps you get shit done.
I’m not in judgement. I don’t analyze. I don’t focus on why you find yourself in these circumstances, we know why. It’s because something that truly matters to you, something that you are attached to is now absent from this life and you need help dealing with it.
What makes me different
First, I'm a Sensitive. My focus is not on some long-term fix-you type of methodology because from my standpoint you are not broken.
With me, major changes and realizations can take place in a relatively short time.
Weeks, not months/years. That’s the goal.
I’m action focused with emphasis on creating new ways of healing, believing, thinking and being. I am your guide through troubled waters.
I’m focused on post traumatic growth, the positive…sustainable change experienced as a result of going through the grief experience.
I’m also future focused with emphasis on the Self. We talkin’ Self-awareness, Self-development, Self-management and Personal resilience. (yeah, no, I couldn’t do the “Self” thing with that one). But you know what I mean.
With me, we live in the question…now what? How do we navigate your ship to calmer waters.
I’m not the authority…you are. Everything you need, you have. Seriously! I’m designed to help you go in there and get it. That’s what I do in a nutshell.
I am skilled at seeing to the Soul of who you are, to your strengths, talents, resilience. I hold up the mirror so that you too can see the power of who you are through it all. For real. With clarity.
Why do I do this work?
Because I’m called to do it. Not from a theological standpoint, no. I say that I’m called because what I do in helping other people, I was born to do. I am an introvert by nature, but making a difference in the lives of people comes naturally to me.
When my son Jason was murdered, that was the worst thing that has ever happened to me, to this day.
And…it was a thing that changed my life for the better. I know this because I’m on the other side of it. Going through it was hell, but it was the catalyst for me to recognize the true power of who we are as human beings. How resilient we are. How gifted we are. My grief journey took me to the soul of who I am and brought back with it the knowledge of my ability to help so many others, as I have done, through it all.
I do it to help us heal ourselves, to recognize the power of who we are, the gift that we are. I do this work because it matters. Because you matter.