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Let's Talk Grief And Change The Way You Feel
Let's begin with the fact that grief is not a destination; it's a journey and its sacred.
Grief is a natural and normal response to the absence of someone OR something deeply meaningful, an absence that is a part of what makes us who we are.
It’s natural to feel a wide range of emotions – sometimes all at once. And there is absolutely … absolutely no ‘right’ way to grieve.
Regardless of what causes us to grieve whether it's the death of a loved one, a separation, divorce, the loss of a pet, retirement, miscarriage, an empty nest, aging, someone you love has been incarcerated, the loss of a job/career, finances, health, or homelessness, no matter which life transition causes it, experiencing a mix of emotions around it is normal AND valid.
Grief is an experience that weaves mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual experiences that compel us to explore the deepest depths of our Soul, often leading us into the darkest corners of our existence.
From my perspective, grief - and the darkness that it brings - can be our greatest teacher. The journey itself is an opportunity for profound personal growth and transformation.
"It is in our darkness where we grow the most. There would be no light if we didn't have a context for darkness."
YOUR INVITATION AWAITS
ON THE OTHER SIDE OF GRIEF
If you’ve been moving through grief for at least three (3) months due to the absence of a loved one, I see you. I honor the courage it takes to keep going, even when the waters feel rough and uncertain.
Why three (3) months?
Because in my experience, when a loved one leaves this life, after the administrative process, after the visitors leave, and you find yourself alone, that's when the quiet sets in and the real journey to the other side begins. It's in the quiet.
"Grief is inevtiable, it isn't a place you arrive and stay - it's a journey"
Please know that if we live long enough, we will all grieve. Grief is inevitable it isn’t a place you arrive and stay – it’s a journey, a life-altering experience that touches every part of who you are. I’ve walked this path myself, and I understand the ache, the confusion, and the longing for steady ground. I also know that power that lives in you, that power that is waiting to be “rediscovered” on the other side of this journey.
My commitment is to gently help you navigate the waves, help steady your ship, and help you find your inner compass.
Sometimes, all it takes is a compassionate presence, a heartfelt conversation, or someone who truly listens to your story, your hearts' expression. I figure via writing, blogging and maybe even chatting a bit, I can meet you where you are and offer you that safe harbor.
Let these words remind you that you are not alone, you are in the process of uncovering the hope, the resilience, and the light that still shines in you. Your journey is unique, and you have the courage and the strength within to move forward one step at a time. I promise.
Here are a few practices that may help along the way:
Honor Your Emotions
Allow yourself to feel and acknowledge your emotions without judgment. Give yourself permission to not be okay, to experience your emotions fully. The emotions of grief and other strong feelings are natural responses. Journal. Write down your experiences just as they show up. This is a way to metabolize them.
Listen To Your Inner Wisdom
Unplug for a bit every day. Take quiet moments to reflect and tune into your intuition (your inner wisdom). Notice what your mind and body are telling you about what you need and trust that inner guidance when making decisions. Slow down and listen. This takes practice, but it's well worth it
Make Conscious Choices
Focus your thought and energy intentionally. Each day, decide where to direct your attention, how you’ll respond to challenges, and what actions will support your highest good. Start small. Choose a thing, a thought, a behavior that you will change. I.e., today I will just allow without commentary. Today, I will be the "observer."
Accept What You Can't Control
Recognize that some aspects of life are beyond your control, but you always have the power to choose your response. Practice letting go of what you cannot change and focus on what you can influence.
Create Personal Harmony
Make choices that support your well-being, such as setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and seeking support when needed. Intuitive balancing is about consistently choosing what helps you feel stable and empowered. Each day will be different. It's okay
MEET VALERIE FRAZIER
RETIRED MASTER SGT. US ARMY | CERTIFED PROFESSIONAL COACH
As the founder of On the Other Side of Grief, I bring over 13 years of experience in intuitive life and grief coaching, supporting individuals as they navigate loss, life transitions, and the deeply personal journey toward healing and renewal.
My professional path and lived experiences have shaped me into a compassionate public speaker, trainer, small group facilitator, and author, allowing me to connect with others in meaningful and transformative ways.
I am committed to creating a safe, affirming space where emotions are honored, stories are heard, and individuals are empowered to rediscover purpose, strength, and the beautiful horizons that exist beyond grief.
Why I Do This Work?
When my son Jason was murdered, that was the worst thing that has ever happened to me, to this day.
And…it was a thing that significantly changed my life in a favorable way. I know this because I’m on the other side of it.
Going through it was hell, but it was the catalyst for me to recognize the true power of who we are as human beings. How resilient we are. How gifted we are.
My grief journey took me to the soul of who I am and brought back with it the knowledge of my ability to help so many others, as I have done, through it all.
I do it to help us heal ourselves, to recognize the power of who we are, the gift that we are.
I do this work because it matters. Because you matter.
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Going through grief and other life-challenging transitions can be scary, but being stuck in it is scarier. As you move through your grief journey, remember that every emotion you experience is valid, and healing unfolds in its own time. Even in moments of darkness, there is potential for light and growth. Trust that your journey, though difficult, can lead to new strength and understanding.
I invite you to take command of your ship, navigate through the murky waters, and create an empowering journey. Now is the time to take back control of your life, with confidence, mastery, and skill. Are you ready to set sail toward your brighter tomorrow? Healing is possible – and you are worthy of peace, joy and a life that feels whole again. Set sail toward your brighter tomorrow.
To support you as you move forward, here are some affirmations to hold close:
01 | I honor my journey and trust that healing unfolds in its own time
02 | I am resilient and each day I grow stronger through my experiences
03 | My grief is a testament to my ability to love deeply
04 | I trust that step-by-step, I am moving forward to greater understanding and wholeness
CURATING YOUR SACRED SPACE
When a loved one leaves this life, we don't want to let go; but what if there's a special way to hold on and let go. What an amazing gift.
I share with you my Sacred Space where I honor those that have left this life. I remember them. I bring the spiritual energy of them to this space.
Here I know that I am loved. I feel the energy of their precious love for me. I know that I am never alone.
For they have always been and will always be with me.
Because ... I remember
EMBRACING INTUITIVE BALANCE
Intuitive balancing is the practice of honoring your emotions, listening to your inner wisdom, and making conscious choices that support your personal harmony and stability. It means recognizing that while some aspects of life are beyond your control, you always have the power to decide how you respond to them.
Each day, you wake up at the center of your own world, making choices about where to focus your thoughts, where to put your energy, how you’ll feel, and how you’ll act. Intuitive balancing is an approach that encourages you to focus your thoughts and energy “intentionally,” in ways that help you navigate life’s challenges, creating new and consistent ways of elevating your well-being.
And granted, there are some things in this life that are beyond our control. We are in every moment of life’s unfolding. However, what is in our control is how we allow these things to affect us and how we choose to respond to them.
Choice is everything!
A LETTER OF LOVE & REFLECTION
If you feel comfortable, consider reflecting on these questions:
01 | What do you need most in this moment?
02 | What small act of kindness can you offer yourself today?
03 | If you could speak to yourself as a friend, what would you say?
04 | What small step could you talk today to honor your feelings?
05 | What has gried taught you about yourself?
06 | How have you evolved through it all?
If you're grieving, please know that it's OK to feel everything you're feeling. I would invite you to take a gentle pause and simply notice what's present for you right now. There's no "right" way to grieve. Your feelings are valid, and your journey is uniquely yours. This is a time to take special care of yourself.
Healing does not mean forgetting. It means learning to move forward with love and care.
Engagement 1
An Introduction to Grief Talk
Definition of Grief and The Loss of a Loved One
Identifying the Emotions of Grief
Common Myths & Misconceptions
Supporting Someone That is Grieving
Engagement 2
We Talkin' Grief
Defining Grief and its Many Faces
A Deeper Dive into the Emotions of Grief
The Importance of Processing Emotions
Coping Strategies: Self-Care & Support Systems
Engagment 3
Grief By Any Other Name
Identifying Other Types of Grief
Identifying Ways to Heal
The Role of Self Compassion
Open Discussion in summary of all 3 Engagements Sessions
